🤯 Too Busy Knowing to Wonder?
Just think of all the things you could do with your time if you weren’t so busy knowing.
What if you used that time to wonder, to ask, to be curious, instead of predicting outcomes or needing to be right?
We all know that person — the one who can confidently predict how a conversation will go, how someone will react, or how a situation will end. If I’m being honest, I used to be that person. And I was proud of it.
You’ll hear phrases like:
“Those two are like oil and water — it’ll never work.”
“He’s going to be furious. He hates surprises.”
“She won’t eat that. She never tries new food.”
Statements delivered with authority, based on “what we know.”
But do we actually know????
🧠 Why Your Brain Wants to Keep You in the Know
Your brain is fascinating. I’m borderline obsessed with how it works.
One thing I’ve learned is that your brain’s number one job isn’t to make you happy — it’s to protect you.
How? By using your memories like a search engine: scanning, filtering, predicting. It says, “You’ve seen this before — here’s what happened, history is bound to repeat. Let’s not get hurt again.”
For example:
Your last two relationships ended badly.
Your brain remembers. Loudly.
So now, it says, “Don’t get close again. All partners will hurt you.”
You stop dating. You stop trusting. You stop being curious.
That’s how it starts — you become so busy knowing.
You “know” your boss won’t promote you.
You “know” your friends are talking behind your back.
You “know” that once someone betrays you, they can never be trusted again.
You know, you know, you know.
🌬️ Let Curiosity In
But what if — just once — you paused the knowing?
What if you opened the window, just a tiny bit, and let in a breeze of curiosity?
Sometimes all it takes is one small moment of possibility:
What if they’ve changed.
Perhaps this is different.
Maybe I don’t need to be right — I just want to understand.
What if you just let something else possibly be true?
Your brain is doing its best to keep you safe — but if you believe every single thought it throws at you, you’ll live in fear, not peace.
✨ Your Turn
So next time you hear someone make a bold statement about what they “know” — or you catch yourself doing it — try asking:
“What if I wasn’t so busy knowing? What else would I have time for?”
Maybe that space you clear will be filled with wonder.
Maybe even joy.
